In my lifetime I’ve dated my fair share of boys. Some of them were an interesting distraction whilst others were a complete waste of my time. I truly had no idea what to look for in a guy never mind not what to look for and because I didn’t think to ask for advice I stumbled for a long time and made some god awful mistakes along the way.
As an adult I definitely feel I’m a lot wiser because of these experiences and for anyone else who might need a little help here are my top 3 red flags to watch for.
If he talks about himself more than he asks questions about you
Whether he talks about himself in a negative way or positive way is of no consequence. If a guy is constantly talking about himself or steers the conversations back towards himself whenever you have a conversation than it’s obvious he has a huge ego that he needs to inflate. Don’t bother wasting your time trying to be in a relationship with him. He will always believe his needs far outweigh your own.
If he talks negatively about his previous relationships without you prompting him for more information.
Even if the girl he previously dated was a nasty piece of work it doesn’t necessarily mean you need to know about it. A gentleman would be kind and would say that it didn’t work out with minimal negative details about the ex. If he is being overly unkind about an ex than you are probably best to stay away because he is obviously not over that particular relationship anyway.
If he takes longer than you to get ready to go out
As a general rule I don’t think a man’s shower routine should take any longer than a female’s shower routine and this is taking in account a guys need to shave. Pay particular attention how many lotions and potions he has in his bathroom cabinet (take a sneak peak!) and if it’s overly excessive (more than your own!) than get the hell out of there.
Do you have your own red flags when dating or in a relationship? If so what are they?